The bridge

“Teacher”! She screamed, i turned immediately and i saw Itoro running towards me with a very big bright happiness. She is one of my students at school and she saw me walking pass her mum’s shop. While we were exchanging pleasantries my eyes caught hers and i saw admiration all over her face, i instantly felt this uncontrollably rush of guilt. “No! No! Don’t admire me like this, this type of dress isn’t want qualifies you as beautiful my love” i wanted to tell her but i couldn’t. On that day February 2020, let’s just say i could have dressed better.

In my years of teaching young children i have come to realise that, there is more to it than the fun and cute faces. You are not just a parent outside their homes, you are a role model, an idol, a hero etc.

A wise man once said “ teachers are like bridges” they take people from where they are to where they need to be without letting them fall off the bridge. Now, for children its a little more difficult because they clearly do not know their needs and wants so its part of your job to navigate them.

These young ones give us a sense of accountability which drives us to becoming better, not just for the kids but for ourselves as well. I have seen teachers who have this “he is not my kid so i don’t care, i can’t kill myself” kind of attitude i know some kids are more difficult than the others but surely there are ways to handle them.

I love my kids, all sixty of them so i let go of some things that i know i wouldn’t be proud of if caught, let’s just call it sacrifice.
Teaching has taught me patience, transparency, discipline, accountability, meekness, decency and i had to triple my studying game because my kids are way too smarter than their age.

Please know this, you are everything that child wants to be and more. While some kids see the imperfection in their parents, they see no flaw in their teacher. Use that as an advantage and cross that child to the side of the bridge where he needs to be.

Thank you and may God bless your effort.

The Bigger Picture

Do you know that a change of lane is not necessarily out of track? There is always a bone of connection.

I was posted to an all girls secondary school as a corper for my one year service, when I got to the school and met with the vice principal, I handed my posting letter to her and one glance at it she said they would only accept me if I would agree to teach French other than that, they don’t have vacancy for any other subject related to my discipline, before I could process the whole idea of becoming a French teacher and I thought of how most students don’t take French seriously, yes I love to teach but I love to teach what I know and understand and French isn’t one of such things so I was both confused and scared. Matter of fact, what really got to me was the English and literature textbooks I brought from home hoping to teach the senior classes{lols}.

“I was standing all tall and confident so well they didn’t see how nervous i was”

I snapped backed to reality when I heard “corper are you going to teach the French or not? French isn’t even on the list of things I want to learn or do…I murmured however, I heard myself say “yes Ma I will teach the French”.

Two weeks later, I was standing in front of over 40 students introducing myself as their new French teacher teaching ‘bonjour’ and ‘ça va’ I remember laughing so hard when I got back to my office because I was looking all confident and serious and the little ones didn’t know how nervous I was standing there and teaching. I spent the past week downloading lots of French apps that could make learning French easier especially audio, they helped but not so well so I decided to take a step further.

“I know me i knew i wasn’t going to settle for less”

It’s true I was scared and confused at first, but I know me, I knew immediately I took that offer I was going to give it my best shot and I was going to go extra to be good at it. So I enrolled in a French school, I became a student in the evening and a professeur in the morning. yes! It was stressful but I managed till I finished A1[beginner’s level} and I am still going to other levels. Enrolling in a French school has made teaching French a lot easier and fun.

Change of lane isn’t always out of track”

Imagine if I rejected the offer from the vice principal, don’t get me wrong I am not saying that there might not be better offers out there but what if learning French was a step in the right direction for me and I screwed up and realize in maybe 2 or 5years time that I should have learned French and didn’t?
Nothing is ever as it seems, most times we make up excuses for ourselves but I dare you to pay attention to the signs because most often than not it is what it seems like. When we are presented with offers unfamiliar with us we shouldn’t be in a haste to cast it aside because change of lane isn’t always out of track, it is just a different lane towards the bigger picture.
The bigger picture should always be the goal and there are different lanes in arriving there however, some lanes are less rossy than the others therefore, it is pertinent for us to first see how an offer takes us closer to the bigger picture before accepting or rejecting it….


One day I will become a world famous t.v host, author, mother, wife, mentor etc. One day I will travel around the world to places I have only imagined of going, one day I will be a helper to billions of people by all means necessary.
Now the question is,will you know when that “one day” comes? when it eventually comes. oh! i mean if it eventually comes..
what is the difference between one day and today, what is so important about one day that you give silly excuses why it cannot be today, maybe because you have too many responsibilities so there is no time to write, sing, mentor and what have you, therefore, it cannot be today but one day. Don’t you think that one day means NEVER? Today you are responsible for this or that, tomorrow it will be for Tom or Harry and the day after the story is endless.

I think you should do what you want right now, let today be a starting point for a greater achievement. Great men didn’t just achieve a lot in a day but at least they started and didn’t just wait for one day.
Oh! I believed so much in one day, till I realised that I don’t have one day because it is only a fantasy that exists in my imagination, but I am sure of today and that is because I am living it which is more than all I need.
The day you start fulfilling your bucket list, that day will be your one day, so treat each day as your last, that way all you have is ONE DAY.

My Cheerleader Is Me

As a little girl, I was very timid I could only express or be myself around my close friends which were quit a few. I didn’t like my body because I felt others didn’t like it, part of the reasons was because I was the only one among my peers that had developed breast and had pimples at the time. This made me felt really sad and inferior, each time I walked on the streets alone, I felt the whole street was staring at me wondering what kind of an alien I was…I practically lived in the world of fantasy wishing I could do this or that without actually trying them in reality.

Part of the reason I didn’t try out things I love so much like writing especially when it has to do with what the public might see or hear is because I am afraid of REJECTION. Apart from procrastination, rejection was another reason it took me so long to upload my first post, every time I look at the piece all I could see were errors, reasons why it is just not perfect enough to appear in public so I let it go.

When I got into college, I thought the inferiority complex had dropped but it was obvious I thought wrong. There were so many things I wanted to do in my year one, two and three in both church and school that I couldn’t do, my friends thought it was procrastination or laziness(they were not far from the truth anyway) but deep down I knew it was because I was afraid of rejection, the mere thought of it gives me cold feet so no matter the encouragement I had gotten from friends and books, nothing seems to work. I usually hide in the crowd where no one could see me but I’d see them all. That’s why in most social gathering I find myself I know more than 50% of the people while in return only a few can barely remember my face. I prayed about it but nothing changed, I became so angry with myself because there was so much on my plate that I wanted to dish out to people but rejection was holding me back, at some point I felt I wasn’t good enough or didn’t even know what I want at all..

One day, when I was studying I began to fantasies about my life and all the things I needed to do as usual, then a question popped into my head “what if you miss your time? That scared the hell out of me because even the bible says there is time for everything-Eccl. Then I asked myself what if this really is my time and I’m being ignorant about it, for the first time I thought deeply about what Jack said when he told me

“Wendy no one can be a better cheerleader of you than YOU”.

I realised that I have been waiting for almost everyone to believe in me, to cheer me, to never give up on me but it is high time I woke up and faced reality.
That was it! Those were the words that set everything else in place those words inspired me for real to pick my pen and write again, this time, not focusing on being rejected because that will definitely come but on the lives that will be inspired or saved by my actions or my piece, lives like mine that fear rejection and are suffering from the pain of hiding their potentials, people that gives a damn so much about others opinion, those that don’t like their bodies. Reaching out to these people became my priority and rejection? a necessary evil.

Rejection doesn’t make you weak or break you, it brings out all the strength and stamina you’ve got in you. We shouldn’t be afraid of it rather, we should anticipate it because it is like the catalyst that elevates us, it is a pathway to celebration therefore, you can not be celebrated if you were not first rejected(a typical example of our lord Jesus).

A cheerleader encourages others whether they are winning or losing. You can imagine when you become your own cheerleader both in thick and thin, rainy or sunny, you never give up on you despite all glaring reasons to, when your friends can’t see the possibilities in achieving your goals, when you are stuck in the dark tunnel and you think you can’t see the light you should be the one telling you to “go Wendy! go Wendy! go Wendy! And you just might see the light. That way, if the world rejects you, you are certain you have a cheerleader in you. One that won’t ever reject you and you will work so hard to prove to that person that her hope and prayers were not in vein.

P.S your cheerleader is YOU and mine is ME…..

Do It Anyway

I created this blog couple of months ago but most times when I want to post something here, I just feel it is not appropriate for a first time post “it might not make a good impression” so I thought. Nevertheless, I kept procrastinating all in the name of getting a an appropriate first time post. But then I figured, I might never get that appropriate post, that it might be in the inappropriateness of my post that I will be able to reach out to the kind of readers that I desire. So I decided to post anyway regardless of all the errors and rough work or inappropriateness.

This however, is a typical example of our everyday life, I mean, we think we need to put so much in ourselves just so we impress the next person or they see us as perfect but at the end of the day we receive little or no appreciation..

Please don’t get me wrong, if you want to put so much in yourself or over work yourself, it is OK just go on and do it BUT not with the aim of impressing someone else.

In the same vein, if there is a unique gift you have such as, singing, writing etc. And you are waiting for the right time to start? I hate to break it to you sweetheart but there is no appropriate time because every time is an appropriate time to start something though it might appear blur but with consistency it will be clear enough. Do you know that, there are opportunities in inappropriate conditions only if we are prepared thereby making us Resilient.

I know this piece is more like a cliché but have we ever wondered why we have clichés? I think it is because we are not doing what we ought to do and there are so many things we are ignorant about. There is no harm in failing or falling, making mistakes, getting booed. If we keep thinking or imagining what people’s reaction will be when we start something, we will end up not trying to start at all.
Writing this post now, I know there are some errors both in punctuation and grammar, notwithstanding all that,I was tired of procrastinating and waiting for the perfect piece with little or no errors. So I finally got a first time blog post, so should you, just do it anyway regardless of any seeming hopeless condition.